Many of us tend to travel through life with a soundtrack of sorts. Sometimes it’s what’s popular on the radio, sometimes it’s a random playlist that just fits our mood, and sometimes it’s throwing on some old school and reminiscing. We tend to relate moments and periods in our lives to certain songs….especially when it comes to being all up in that Love Thang.
When you’re in love, it seems all the songs are written for you. There are songs that describe your relationship perfectly, and you can’t believe OMG it even mentions green eyes (!!). There are songs for when you and the significant other aren’t getting along well, but no worries, you’ll make up. There are songs about dreaming of love to come, which you get to feel all smug about. A song with a sensual vibe leads to *those* looks between the two of you. And if you’re really fanciful, you might even have a few songs picked out to walk down the aisle to. (C’mon girls, you know it’s true.)
It almost as if the universe is speaking to you through music. Every romantical lyric convinces you that This Is How Love Is Supposed To Be. *sigh*
…… Until it’s not. And if you’ve been unfortunate enough to suffer a bad split, you know that the universe and its musical communication can flat turn on you. Breakups can be hard. Breakups can be BRUTAL when you’re a music junkie.
Because, then you hear the breakup songs. And boy, oh boy, are there breakup songs; all over the emotional spectrum: good riddance, summer fling, one night stand, it’s for the best, huge mistake, not meant to be, soulmates with bad timing, and I hate/love you, please leave/stay. Oh, and if that’s not enough, you also get songs about lamenting a lost love, recovering from being dumped, and having to see your ex out with someone new. Gah, this sucks! Now you can’t get away from all this music that’s just feeding your bad feels!
Ya know that great song that came out when you started dating, and nearly every word fit your budding crush? Now “Setting the World on Fire” applies more to what you want to do to a pile of his things in the back yard. That sexy song you used to cheesy-sing to each other? Yeah, now there’s “Versace On The Floor” because you can’t drum up the energy to clean anything. And that beautiful Sarah Bareilles tune you (prematurely) chose for your first dance at your wedding, now just makes you feel sad and foolish.
But, the universe, in its infinite wisdom and balance, also provides you with the musical salve for your wounds. Thankfully there are plenty of songs telling you that you will get past this, and you will be okay. Whether you stay single for a while and focus on yourself, or move right into an even better relationship, there is music to support you and build you back up.
Friedrich Nietzsche said, “Without music, life would be a mistake.” So listen to the music: revel in the love, wallow in the misery, and gain strength from the power. Some time from now, you’ll hear that song that meant so much at the time, and be able to remember, smile, and sing along.